Is Stoicism your denial of Learned Helplessness?

Unauthentic living

Living in bad faith¹

Identity crisis

let’s face it. Whatever your Racial Profile, Generation, ²; Gender; Socio-Economic Status; Education; Technical Ability or Personal Circumstances ³– Acknowledging individual differences invokes John Paul Sartre’s thesis, “Hell is—other people”⁴.

Being and Nothingness

Thanks to Dr Louise Kidder et al, ⁵events called “normal” or “acceptable”, since the Greatest and Silent Generations are hereinafter recalled and reconstructed as “putrid knowing Gaslighting.” unshamingly operationalised as Miranda Fricker’s epistemic injustice⁶.

The problem definition

The meaning of any proposition is the method of its verification⁷

1. Emotional Intelligence

suppressed, unresolved emotional issues, and potential mental health problems such as anxiety and depression

2. illusory expectations

Personal control that dismisses or trivialise blindly obvious external circumstances, leading to feelings of inadequacy or failure.

3. Attribution errors

overestimating the weight of personality traits, and disregard the influence of blindingly obvious situational Factors

4. Negative Self Talk

Denial of learned helplessness ignores the legitimate impact of repeated failures or traumas, which can limit an individual’s perceived agency.: Negative self-talk is a red flag that can hinder personal growth and inhibit one’s ability to reach full potential.

5. Social Isolation

stoic approaches lead to social isolation as individuals withdraw emotionally or believe they must handle problems alone.This isolation exacerbate feelings of helplessness and depression, as social support is a critical factor in overcoming personal and emotional challenges.

weaponised subjectivity

share, validate, and learn from collective experiences

Explore ”the Shadow Self” as a pathway to Self Actualisation ⁸

Amongst others, normalise the good habits of active listening; emotional intelligence, and ideal mental health -irrespective of personal circumstances, if not individual Differences, Life Cycle Stage, Technical Ability, or Social Status!

Good habits formation

Neither Anomalous experiences, nor egocentric illusions

1. Mindful, self Awareness

Cultivate present-moment awareness, acceptance, and compassion.⁹. Understanding self-awareness is crucial for personal development, interpersonal relationships, and overall psychological well-being.¹⁰

2. Assertiveness¹¹

Update, revise, and adapt knowledge and skills-essential for personal growth, professional development, and resilience to navigate change and uncertainty..¹²

3. Support network

Regularly review progress, adjust plans as needed, and celebrate milestones to maintain motivation.

Affective forecasts¹³

proactive strategies and positive engagement to achieve goals and overcome challenges.

5. Critical thinking

Regularly review progress, adjust plans as needed, and celebrate milestones to maintain motivation.

Lived experiences

Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards¹⁴

I am Stephen and I have been where you are.

I understand the struggle of overcoming Stoicism and Learned Helplessness.

That’s why , without fear, favour or prejudice; I reach beyond Husserl’s Natural Standpoint to optimise ¹⁵ Carl Roger’s Fully Functioning Personality traits; plus Jung’s Shadow Self¹⁶then challenge Epistemic Injustice if not Gaslighting in the realisation that since the Greatest(1900s), if not Silent Generations.(1920s)-unapologetic disregards for Interpretive Obligations Rules-maybe compounded by Other Real/Artificial Legal Persons’-Self Interest; Conscious Bias ; if not Malicious Requisite Intent-

Self recovery

measurable Benefits

specific, quantifiable outcomes.

Ideal mental health

Enhanced mental health and well-being.¹⁷ Made possible by validation and support systems

Perceptual awareness

Improved socio-economic relationships. ¹⁸Clear communication and accountability protocols

Real knowledge¹⁹

Social representation void of unquestioning common-sense explanations.

What people are saying?

real dangers of Social Representations²⁰

“implementing this bold strategy evidence knowledge of the intelligible world²¹

there is admiration for the ambition and comprehensive nature of this strategy.

visionary and necessary for addressing deep-rooted societal issues

Optimised Social Media

Educational opportunities and social awareness

Mobile App development

Transform lived experience, if not daily routine with the power of mobile apps! From staying organised and boosting productivity to enjoying entertainment and managing your health, if not S.M.A.R.T Goals. There’s an app for every need.

Influencer Marketing

Celebrate Unbiased Brands-employing a skilful blend of Philosophical and Psychological insights and strategic Content to connect with Consequential Strangers, knowingly misguided via Gaslighting, Trolling, if not Epistemic Injustice?

A Balanced Approach

A prisoner or a ruler’s ²² assent to knowledge

Subjectiveness²³

Unambiguous evidence based communication
Triangular socio-economic relationships
inconsistencies/imbalance

Objective self Awareness

Leverage the Scotland Act and Interpretive Obligations
Champion individual difference and accountability
Continuous growth, irrespective of Circumstances.

How to start

Initial steps and guidelines

Validate Reality

Suspend truth claims to knowledge across all perceptual positions²⁴. Adopt Pennybaker’s Writing Paradigm, if not Tony Buzan’s Mindmapping. Treat all feedback as optimum Social Intelligence..

Set boundaries

Without fear or favour Clearly and calmly²⁵ express your boundaries. Let gaslighters; trolls know that their behaviours are unacceptable and that you will not tolerate manipulation.

S.M.A.R.T Goals

Irrespective of perceived power, if not untouchability-Hold devious decision makers accountable²⁶, pursuant to unambiguous Interpretive Obligations.

Frequent Questions

Whether susceptible to, online or otherwise held-out trolling; Epistemic injustices; engaging in Negative self Talk, or hoodwinked by Gaslighting²⁷; these frequent questions underpins Change, rebuild Trust; restore Reputation, demonstrates genuine personal growth and effective communication; if not, tackles learned helplessness.

A) What steps are essential to rebuild reputation?

Start by acknowledging past mistakes and demonstrate a commitment to change. Engage in consistent, positive actions and communicate openly about your efforts and progress. Hold-out unbiased evidenced based facts at every intersection of any argument.

B) How to address past behaviours that contributed to reputation damage?

Aaron Becks and Albert Eliss strategy to eliminate Cognitive Distortion, if not illogical Thinking is integral to communicating Planned Behaviours. Apologize sincerely to those affected and explain the steps you’ve taken to improve. Showing accountability and a willingness to make amends is crucial. Challenge obsolete and faulty social or knowledge schema.

C) How to communicate personal growth and changes to others, including Sceptics?

Bandler and Grinders’ NLP constitutes evidence of how one unintentionally communicates using Verbal Shorthand. Thanks to Tony Buzan’s Mind Mapping, Pennebaker’s Writing Paradigm and Ausubel Advanced Organisers ; any individual can normalise Chronological evidenced based data across traditional, if not various platforms such as social media, blogs, or personal conversations to share your journey. Highlight specific actions and achievements that demonstrate progress. Gaslighting and Trolling.

D) What if people are skeptical about personal changes?

Embrace the shadow self as an immutable characteristic of every living human being’s Personality. Consistency is key. Continue to act in ways that align with your new values. Over time, your actions will speak louder than words and help to rebuild trust. Interpretive Obligation Rules. Milton Erikson’s²⁸ Pacing and Leading is a weaponised tactic

E) How to deal with feedback, Whether from trolls and Gaslighters; or Constructive criticism?

Feedback is priceless and ultimate Social Intelligence. Respond to criticism constructively. Listen to feedback, address valid points, and use it as an opportunity to further improve. Avoid being defensive.

F) Understand all the consequences that flow from Professional help or Counselling; if not consequential Strangers?

Yes, seeking professional help can provide valuable insights and strategies for personal development and overcoming learned helplessness. Whilst therapists or life coaches can guide you through this process, their unique knowledge does not constitute Infallibility nor Carte Blanche to disregard Interpretive Obligation Principles.

G) How to involve others in a journey to rebuild reputation?

No real nor artificial beings are 100% independent. Interdependency is an immutable aspect of the human existence. Whilst engage with supportive friends, family, or mentors offer guidance and encouragement. It is imperative to apply equal weight to the representations held-out by Gaslighter, trolls and other Consequential Strangers to consider the perspectives of all agents of Social Intelligence. Their support can help validate your efforts and provide additional credibility.

H) What role does Transparency play in repairing reputational damage?

Transparency builds trust. Be open about your past mistakes, your journey to overcome learned helplessness, and your ongoing efforts to improve. Honesty disarms and reassures even Sceptics.

I) How to leverage professional and social network to restore reputation?

Reach out to colleagues and mentors to share your story and ask for their support. Engaging in professional development activities and contributing positively to your field can also help rebuild your professional reputation.

J) What long-term strategies should be adopted to maintain a positive reputation?

Without fear or favour, practice Mindful Self-Awareness, setting and achieving personal and professional goals, and maintaining positive relationships. Regularly reflect on your progress and make adjustments as needed to stay aligned with your values and goals. Mindful to reach beyond private experiences²⁹

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Sartre
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.commonly recognised Generation cohorts are defined by their birth years and shared experiences, that shape/shaped values, attitudes, and Behaviours.
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Seligman, Martin E.P. (2002). Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realise Your Potential for Lasting Fulfilment.
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“No Exit” by Jean-Paul Sartre, 1955, via Internet Archive.
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Recalling Harassment, Reconstructing Experience, Dr. Louise H. Kidder, Rebecca A. Lafleur, Carole V. Wells (1995)
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Man is nothing else but that which he makes of himself. That is the first principle of existentialism.”
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Moritz Schlick
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Seligman, Martin E.P. (1991). Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life. New York, NY: Pocket Books.
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Jon Kabat-Zinn is the founder of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), a program he developed in 1979 at the University of Massachusetts Medical School.
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By Melinda Blau, Karen L. Fingerman
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(Speed, Goldstein, & Goldfried, 2017)
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peter Fricker 1980
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Wilson and Gilbert (2003)
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Soren Kierkegaard (1813-1855)
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A person who is fully functioning is able to reach their fullest potential in life. According to the humanist psychologist Carl Rogers, a fully functioning person is in touch with their deepest and innermost feelings and desires. 1 They understand their own emotions and place deep trust in their instincts
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see yourself as they see you. What do you look like? This version of yourself is your Shadow.
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Marie Jahoda in 1958.
She suggested that there were 6 criteria that needed to be fulfilled for ideal mental health (‘normality’). The six criteria were a positive attitude towards the self, self-actualisation, autonomy, resistance to stress, environmental mastery and an accurate perception of reality.
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Salovey and Mayer 1990
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Social representation theory, developed by Serge Moscovici in 1961, focuses on the collective construction of shared knowledge and beliefs within social groups
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Cardwell, M (2010) 4th ed. P.257
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According to Plato, opinion is the lowest form of knowledge, lying between knowledge and ignorance. The Forms are the only objects of knowledge
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Plato’s Allegory of the Cave
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Self-efficacy refers to an individual’s belief in his or her capacity to execute behaviours necessary to produce specific performance attainments (Bandura, 1977, 1986, 1997). Self-efficacy reflects confidence in the ability to exert control over one’s own motivation, behaviour, and social environment.
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Bhandler and Grinder
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how to make my ideas clear, 1879-Charles Sanders Pierce
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The Greatest happiness of the greatest number-as a moral principle? Jeremy Bentham
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influenced by earlier sociological work by Frank Tannenbaum and Edwin Lemert, but was most prominently developed by Howard Becker in his book “Outsiders” (1963).
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utilization approach” focused on developing a rapport with the subject so that he could communicate with their unconscious
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Carnap